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February 21, 2014

I’ve been reading articles from Yahoo for days now just like what I always do before.

I came across an article entitled, “12 Things Successful Do Before Breakfast”.

Let me summarize it for you.

  1. They wake up early.
  2. They exercise before it falls off the to-do list.
  3. They work on a top-priority business project.
  4. They work on a personal passion project.
  5. They spend quality time with family.
  6. They connect with their spouses.
  7. They network over coffee.
  8. They meditate to clear their minds.
  9. They write down things they are grateful for.
  10. They plan and strategize while they are fresh.
  11. They check their email.
  12. They read the news.

I plan to slowly incorporate these into my daily routine.

You can read the full article here.

—wanderrwithmee

 


Source: http://elitedaily.com/life/the-20-mistakes-you-dont-want-to-make-in-your-20s/

The author: Preston Waters is a thinker. He’s not your traditional philosophical persona, however, as he leaves no topic untouched. Covering all the bases, from business to women, Preston Waters is the ultimate man’s man for Gen-Y.

The 20 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make In Your 20s

The 20 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make In Your 20s

LIFE •  • APR 15, 10:11AM

Your 20’s compose undoubtedly the most pivotal time in your life. While there are plenty of temptations and distractions, the decisions you make here are truly what dictate your future, as the weak fail and only the strong survive.

Do you have what it takes to become a monumental success? Or will you live out a life of mediocrity? The choice is up to you. While many think they have all the answers and the keys to success, we have seen those people make the same pitfalls too many times before.

This is the time for you to hustle, scrap and fight for the life that you want for yourself. You manifest your own destiny during these crucial years.

Every move you make is a test. Don’t f*ck it up. These are the 20 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make In Your 20s.

20. Working for money, not for building your dreams

Never do anything just because it’s convenient for you. Look to challenge yourself and build your own dream instead of building someone else’s. Even if it doesn’t exactly make sense now, create something with great value so you can cash out big.

Always look to the future and never for immediate compensation. What are you going to do with those weekly wages anyways? Stop being so entitled and pretending like you deserve cash, prizes and vacations just yet. You will soon realize once you’ve made it that making money doesn’t make you happy. It’s the journey.


19. Thinking that this is the right time to fall in love

While all of your friends might be doing it, don’t fall into the trap of a relationship. Sure it seems like the right thing to do, but your 20s are entirely too crucial for your personal growth for you to be focusing on fulfilling the wishes of another individual.

Not only does it make you complacent with where you are in life, but it makes you boring. When your business is at stake and your future is resting on your shoulders, the last thing you need is to be bogged down by an insecure lover rushing you home.

Get out there, meet new people, test the limits and have fun. It will take you to the places you’ve only dreamed of going.


18. Trying to act like the man rather than learning how to become one

Instead of going overboard on the Gucci monogram and bottles in the club, as if you just signed to Rocnation, spend that time focusing on your career.

Every second counts and if more time is spent pretending to be the person you want to be instead of becoming that man, then you’ll sink in quick sand without even knowing it.

A real man is willing to make sacrifices. If you aren’t down to put in the work, then please don’t act like you are. You can enjoy the success when you actually attain it.


17. Making friends instead of earning trust

The in-crowd may be tempting, but you’ll probably fall victim to surrounding yourself with social climbers. We know you feel entitled to celebrate, but please relax. It’s never attractive when you act as though this is the last time you’ll ever see this in life.

Make connections with people based on trial and error, not presuppositions and drunk ranting about what they can do for your business.

If you ever want people to take you seriously, then you have to take them seriously. Just because you think you trust someone doesn’t always mean you can. Heed any red flags in the past before jumping into any kind of venture with them.


16. Not caring because you only live once — that’s for fools

We all are guilty of irrational decision-making in our 20s. Fast people and fast times with money in your pocket always lead to over-extending yourself.

A life of partying, heavy drugs and pretty much having that YOLO attitude will leave you flat on your ass. Get focused and lock into what you’re supposed to be doing. If you don’t know what that is, then you better figure it out ASAP.


15. Making all your wants, needs

Expensive women and cheap thrills coupled with the expensive sneakers should not be on the list of your needs. Setting the foundation for your business and team is far more important than updating your wardrobe and chasing sex.

Distinguish between what you want and what you actually need. Make sure your priorities are in tact or you will lose your track.


14. Forgetting that family comes first

Those who supported you before anything deserve to be taken care of when you reach your success. If you aren’t doing this for the ones you love, then you’re not doing it right. Family comes first, no matter what happens. If you work for whom you love instead of just yourself, you will get far.


13. Blaming anyone else but yourself for anything in life

Hold yourself accountable for everything. At the end of the day, all you have in the world is yourself — so go hard. Don’t look to anyone for answers and instead of making problems, create solutions.

Whether it was that job you wanted, the funding you needed or the love you think you can’t live without, there is no one that can be held accountable in this universe except for you.


12. Getting comfortable like you actually deserve down time

Unless you’re chilling with Victoria’s Secret models in Monaco this weekend, you shouldn’t even be thinking about taking a break anytime soon. You need a vacation?

What have you accomplished? Mark Cuban spent seven years building out his first business before he even took a break. Don’t get lazy now.


11. Sticking with jobs that didn’t teach you anything

A bad job is like an unhealthy relationship. Truthfully, the only reason you’re there is because it is the safest and easiest thing you know.

Any job or relationship that allows for you to get comfortable should be avoided at all costs. The last scenario you could ever want is becoming like the rest of those miserable 40-somethings faced with weekends of minivans and soccer practice.


10. Following the crowd instead of forging against it

You can be aware of the trends, but never follow them. If all your time is spent trying to adjust to your surroundings, you’ll get lost in the crowd all the more easily.

Success and greatness are constructed by trendsetters themselves, not those who latched on to what’s currently trending. We hope that you don’t have any aspirations to look like your favorite rapper. Temptation to be influenced by those who you aspire to be like is easy, but no one finds his or her calling while following in the footsteps of another.


9. Failing to energize those around you

Although you may sometimes think there is a lack of talent in your networks — this is never the case. It is your sole responsibility to inspire, encourage and drive those around you to succeed.

Failing to do so only confirms that you fall victim to that which you accuse others of. Change and greatness can be sparked everywhere, but bring it upon yourself to trigger it.


8. Thinking you need to stop learning and growing

You have more zeros at the end of your bank statement and stamps in your passport than you had ever imagined. Don’t consider this your victory lap, but rather as a taste of greatness. Do you live to enjoy the moments you dreamed of or a lifetime of unimaginable success?

The common misconception that once things are in your favor, you no longer have to put in the 3:00AM work hours is a dangerous problem. The fewer nights that you’re willing to put in the work, the fewer opportunities you will have to celebrate your achievements in the future.


7. Thinking that anyone will ever pay you back

Your 20s will be accompanied with a slew of poor investments by both you and those around you. Whether rich or poor, there will always be someone in your circle that will need a helping hand. If you ever think you’re going to see that money again, you’re sorely mistaken.

If there were a plan of action and re-investment, then the truth is that you will not see $1 back. Times are tough, especially in your 20s and finding a route back to financial freedom is often seen only when winning the lotto or signing your first deal with Ca$h Money Records.

Of course miracles do happen, but the probabilities that you’ve essentially given the money away are far too high.


6. Investing in relationships with the wrong values

Your love life is an investment — and the smarter the deals you execute, the savvier of an investor you become. Instead of navigating through an ambiguous investment in which you shower your lover with cash and prizes for existing, make sure he or she will demonstrate positive returns. Your love life should have a solid ROI.


5. Holding on to friends that waste your time and add no value to your life

You’ll be sucked down into the abyss right with them if you don’t cut the fat of the group. Family and friends could have been great to you as a child, but if they no longer hold the value and inspiration that is needed for you to thrive in life, then cut them loose.

The only individuals you should be surrounding yourself with are those that challenge your ideas and motivate you to find the next solution to your problems. No, not the pessimistic assh*les who shoot down your ideas with their negativity, but rather the ones who genuinely want to see you succeed no matter what you do in life.


4. Forgetting about the piggy bank and spending every dollar you have

If our check is for $9, then we’re most likely spending $30. Between credit cards, school loans and every other avenue for attaining a quick dollar, our need for immediate gratification is worse than ever.

The truth is it’s about making more money, not saving it. But at the same time, if you have no means for expanding your revenue channels, then you must be able to save a few dollars here and there. No one likes to have to walk to work because he blew every dollar at LAVO.


3. Not wrapping it before tapping it

If you don’t want to have a child then you better limit your excuses. As vulgar as it may sound, sometimes there are only a few options in life, so you must avoid all potential margins of error.

The road to success is not paved with having responsibilities of children and your future wife to be. This is a somewhat lonely journey that you must take by yourself and those you love will be able to celebrate with you after.


2. Dating unstable people with mommy and daddy issues

We need to control the invincibility we all feel when it comes to both men and women. Whether she’s a stripper or he’s a frat bro, we feel the need to be the knight in shining armor for our lovers.

As chivalrous as this may seem, we hate to break it to you, but you will never be able to change anyone. By setting yourself up for a losing battle, you’ve only ensured your misery for the next few months. She’s clingy for a reason, don’t be her Dr. Phil. And if he doesn’t have ambition now, he never will.


1. Forgetting that karma is a huge b*tch

Whether it’s burning bridges with people you loved, stealing your friend’s girlfriend or plotting against an ex-partner, we must always remember that karma is the biggest b*tch we’ve ever met.

There is nothing more true than the fact that whatever goes around comes around, and you are not immune to the cosmic forces that be. We’re not asking you to go on your Mother Teresa pilgrimage, but don’t be surprised when reality catches back up with you and brings you to your knees. Be a good person. You’ll get further in life.

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Something to consider 🙂

—wanderrwithmee


I am a third year college student. Turning twenTEEN January of next year. And I am confused. An early mid-life crisis perhaps?

 

All children are asked what one wants to be when they grow up. We had numerous – and some really hard to reach – jobs that we want like being an astronaut. As for me, I can only recall answering two: to be a dentist and to be a model.

It is not an alien idea that what we answered back then may not be the case when asked 10-15 years later or maybe even 20.

What has changed?

The fact that we have been exposed to more things and occupations may be the reason. As one grows up, we begin to know ourselves better. We start discovering “who we really are” and what are we “meant to do or be”.

Realizing it as early as possible is great but realizing it before it’s too late is even better.

How come?

When realized early, one can hone his/her skills already. Passion builds up from there. It seems as if your life has a direction and you’ll never feel astray again.

But why is realizing it before it’s too late still better?

Because you still realized it even though it took time. The mere fact that you realized it makes it good. With everything that you went through to find out what you really want that will make you happy, that makes it better. There is this saying that goes something like,

Because you earned it the hard way, you value it more.

I realized it already. What now?

Now, it is up to you to make that happen.

Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not. —Deepak Chopra

Yes, it is easier being said than done because of course every one has this ideal occupation and ideal life inside our heads.

Even though this is the case, always go with your passion. Life may be harder (or easier) this way but you can never enjoy more without passion in what you do. You’ll always feel like you’re obliged to conform to things that you really don’t enjoy doing. That makes one feel as is life becoming harder and harder.

And as for asking if that dream is realistic, be honest to yourself. Ask if it is REALLY REALLY REALLY far-fetched. Like only 1 out of 1 billion people can achieve that, then maybe you should strategize well before attempting to reach that dream.

But if what you want isn’t far-fetched, get up and do something! Do something to get closer to it! Small things really count. Also, it will help to do some law of attraction. I personally believe that the strongest shield that humans have is their mind. One can never go wrong if you believe that you can achieve something.

Nothing is impossible. Never give up.

 

Now, you may ask, why am I confused?

Because I tend to mix up my passion with my dreams with my emotions.

How so?

I must admit that there is an inner rebel in me. I don’t want people dictating me or getting credit for something that was really decided or done by me.

For example, the course I’m going to take for college. Yes, a lot of people gave me suggestions and I did try to consider them but what stood out most was what if I took this course suggested by personA but I didn’t like it, I would want to blame any one – maybe not directly but in my head silently – for the time wasted because I followed his/her suggestion. Or perhaps a course suggested by personB that I loved and excelled in but he/she tells every one or even just me that he/she is the reason that I excelled. Yes, they can credit themselves and I’ll thank them but somehow, I think, I’ll really feel indebted towards that person forever. And I don’t want that either.

 

Right now, I feel as if that rebel in me took over me for 4 years – which is bad by the way.

Frankly speaking, I am taking the next term off in school to learn everything in my dad’s business. I want to give it a shot not because my dad has been constantly advising me since high school to take a course related to it and have a license for it someday but because I am doing this for myself.

I am doing this to test myself if I actually enjoy doing it and if I’ll miss what my course asks me to do or even if something in me will be triggered if I do – may it be a new passion or a new dream job. I want to expand my horizon and my knowledge about life outside of school.

This new journey of mine is effective next term which is around the first week of January till March then summer break till May (around 5 months).

I shall write my weekly – or even daily (I hope) – musings here in my blog to keep a record of my supposed progress and at the same time help others like me who are confused out there.

 

Before I forget to mention them.. Here are my (as of the moment)

Dreams – to be a travel blogger, to have a show related to travel/eating out/cultures, to travel, travel and travel

Interests – travel, cultures, gadgets, blogging, different cuisines, interior designing, architecture, etc

and yes, I am more of an art inclined person. But you know what is so ironic? I think I am a frustrated artist. HAHA! I do floor plans pretty well though ( I think) because I am a bit OC.

How about you? What are your passions and dreams?

Have a nice day!

XOXO

—wanderrwithmee


People hear the word SACRIFICE, and they become afraid that something will be taken away from them or that they will have to give up something they couldn’t live without. Sacrifice, to them, means loss in a world telling us we could have it all. But I believe TRUE SACRIFICE IS A VICTORY. That’s because it requires free will to give up something for someone you love, or something or someone you love more than yourself. I won’t lie to you. It’s a gamble. Sacrifice wont take away pain and loss, but it wins the battle against bitterness, the bitterness that dims the light on all of the true value in our lives.

-Reverend Stephens


Letting go is probably one of the hardest things to do in life.

The relationship acquired, the time spent or just the mere value of a certain person or thing to us will be tested.

But why do we need to let go?

Can’t we just hold on to it a little bit more?

Every situation is different in itself.

Re-evaluation is needed to get those timely answers.

Not right answers because i think *right* is subjective when it comes to relationships.

It is always best to try hard in doing everything that you can and not giving up but one should learn to let go as well – if it is for the better.

Finally decided to let go?

Let go and move forward.

Many people find it hard to move on after letting go but I still think that with these things, no one else can see the bigger picture better more than yourself.

We cannot expect anyone to vouch for us except for ourselves.

One should learn to fight and stand up.

I’ve thought about it for such a long time already and I think I am ready to let go..

And that I actually have to let go already.

I have to let go of the other side of me.

There is always a room for improvement.

Not that one has to be perfect but I believe everyone should maximize their potentials for us to live our lives to the fullest.

You may wonder what I mean by letting go of the other side of me.

Well, I want to change my lifestyle starting today.

Yes, today.

I’ll start by changing my sedentary lifestyle.

I want to be more active and do other activities – those that require me to get out of bed.

Starting next week, I will try my very very very best to go to the gym near my house at least twice a week.

I need not spend the whole day there or lift weights.

30 minutes of running is enough for a “gym day”.

I will change my sleep cycle.

As crazy as it may sound, I can’t remember the last time I slept at 10 PM or even till 12 MN.

I always sleep late.

Usually around 4 AM but last week my sleep cycle has been even more crazy – I sleep at around 6 to 7 AM.

I am definitely not a morning person but I think I should train myself to become one.

Waking up early.

This may be the hardest thing to do since I LOVE SLEEPING more than I love food.

Seriously.

I usually don’t take breakfast since I am still asleep at that time.

My body clock tells me after 8 hours of sleep to wake up and if I sleep at 4 AM, after 8 hours, what do you think the time will be?

You do the math.

Clothes, things and my room.

Everyone grows physically.

(Not necessarily horizontally.)

But until when should I hold on to the clothes that did fit me a year or years before and now it doesn’t?

I keep holding on to it thinking that I can still wear it when I lose some weight.

For my things, I am sometimes too sentimental that I keep even the things that are considered trash by many.

The result?

A messy room.

And so I’ve decided to let go and just sell them for cheap so that I’ll have funds to buy new clothes and things.

A cleaner environment = a more stable mind.

There have actually been studies that proved how a clean room boosts one’s mental capacity!

I am a student.

I SHOULD go to school everyday and not be lazy even when I have no tests.

I’ll try joining organizations and be active in them since it will be for my future.

Even though I have no tests, I should still study at home even for just a short while.

For now, that is my plan.

Right after I post this, I’ll start cleaning my room. 🙂

How about you?

Any plans of letting go?

—wanderrwithmee


I honestly no know nothing about Brian Lee.

It just so happened that I was on StumbleUpon and I saw this article.

At that time, I was not really down or anything but rather bored – I guess.

It has been awhile since I last read this and now that I am reading it again, it is still as effective.

It motivates you to do those little changes and makes you understand how the world works.

It helped me see the world in another light – a brighter light.

I cannot guarantee that it will have the same effect to you as it did to me but rest assured, it will make a difference.

So here is the original article.

(Note: the text inside the parentheses – ( text ) – are written by me. It contains my personal opinions.)

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10 Sentences that Can Change Your Life

By: Brian Lee

The power of a sentence is tremendous. A single destructive sentence can ruin somebody’s life, make your day, or change your mood. Fortunately, there are some sentences that can give us power to go on. We have sorted out 10 powerful sentences that can change your life for the better.

#1 “People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.”

(This, I believe, is so true.

Every person (I think) has asked himself or herself this: “Why does it seem like everyone or everything is against me” – or something similar to that.

What we fail to realize is that maybe they or the world isn’t really against us.

It is just that the right time hasn’t come for what you want to happen.

Also, when we ask help from someone, we shouldn’t expect them to help us always.

They have their own reasons and not everyone explains their side which makes us misunderstand them.

To be able to communicate effectively always is not possible.

This makes a room for misunderstandings and I think this is one thing all human beings must understand and continue to work on.)

#2 “Climb mountains not so the world can see you, but so you can see the world.”

(The world is such a big place and there is so much to learn from it.

One should strive not for fame or for material gain but for knowledge and experience.

Personally, as a self-proclaimed wanderer in my own way, this made so much sense.

I’m not sure on what was the original context behind the quote but I got to relate to this is by relating it to travel.

To climb mountains is to travel ; so you can see the world is to knowledge and experience.

Travel not for the sake of travelling but travel to experience other cultures and new things and from there, you’ll learn about life and the world as a whole.

*This is personally my favourite quote ✈ ♥ )

#3 “You learn more from failure than from success; don’t let it stop you. Failure builds character.”

#4 “The most dangerous risk of all – The risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later”

(I’ve written a post before about hesitation.)

 #5 “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.”

#6 “The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so you better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.”

#7 “If you accept your limitations you go beyond them.”

#8 “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing.. that’s why we recommend it daily.”

(Personally, when I feel down at times or when I just feel like it, I go into a “Law of Attraction mode”.

I do this to keep myself motivated and to continuously learn.

I admit that I am online most of the time because I am fond of researching about places and random things that interest me.

As a kind of person who easily gets bored of things (according to my friend—but it is kinda true), I really need constant update so as not to get bored.

When I get bored, I can be the laziest person alive.

TRUST ME.

So for me, this is really helpful.

When things get rough and you feel like there is no hope left, try going into the “Law of Attraction mode” by researching about what you currently want to attract into your life.

Doing it everyday is much better.)

#9 “Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something”

(I think this has a connection with the first quote.

Every one is alike in some way.

So don’t feel down and lonely.)

#10 “Comfort is the enemy of achievement.”

(Once you are in your comfort zone, you are restricted.

Restricted in many ways.

So many ways that you miss the chance of improving yourself.

Again, the post I’ve written about hesitation is related to this.)

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—wanderrwithmee ^^


Life is all about adventures.

We should not be afraid to take risks because it is the only way we can enjoy life.

Recently, I’ve been coming across numerous articles about how one should live life or what one should do when presented with a situation.

For me though, I think only one thing is important..

and that is to do or continue doing what makes you happy or what you think will make you happy.

Immortality doesn’t exist.

No one knows when your time will be up.

Death is inevitable.

If you keep procrastinating, you may end up actually not doing it at all.

I am not scaring you or myself of death but let us be realistic.

You truly can never know.

Yes, it still depends on what you are currently – especially if you are already responsible for things like your own family – because you have to consider them in making decisions.

But do not let things like these hinder you from doing what you really want.

So while you are young and while you still can, seize the day.

Don’t let opportunities just pass by you.

Grab them and try your best.

If you live your life with regrets, you wouldn’t be able to appreciate fully the blessings that you have.

— wanderrwithmee


근양 or keunyang means just / simply / just because.. hence the title. ^o^
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These past few days has been a wild ride for me.
From school works till family matters.
Everything honestly seems to be going out of hand.
I honestly have perfected the art of being passive..or so I thought.
It is just that lately a lot of extreme things are happening around me that I can’t seem to have a control of anything which frustrates me.
Not that I have a problem with not being in control of everything but……..it is just like that.
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I must admit that before, I used to be overly sensitive – –  when I was much much younger.
TRUST ME. My relatives tell me this a lot.
My relatives from my mother’s side loves teasing each other.
It is their unique way of expressing I care for you so I’m spending my time with you even if I’m teasing you.
They believe in “ang maasar, talo” which means you lose if you get frustrated or annoyed and the like. (I can’t seem to find the right word)
Before, I easily get annoyed, angry, I cry and I even throw tantrums.
As I grew up, my tolerance for these things grew and made me “a more mature individual” (I think. ^^)
I don’t get easily angry or annoyed when small bad things happen. Sometimes even big ones.
I learned to adjust well to my surroundings and to the circumstances presented to me.
I’m not sure whether my recent frustration is due to my over thinking mind, my usual OC self or just because the people around me are just taking advantage of everything that they can.
I have been passive of the small and average bad things that people around me are doing but they just keep on stepping on the line and just recently, they have crossed it!
They went over the acceptable boundaries!
For the cold treatment I am giving them now, I can give no other excuse to them but 근양.
Yes, I am younger than them but age doesn’t dictate what level of respect a person has to give to you.
Not because I am younger means I am the person who should understand more and let their actions just pass.

Okay. Enough of the rant. Just had to let it out.

– – – wanderrwithmee



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