Yesterday (January 4) made it official, I turned twenTEEN.
I know I should’ve foreseen that I wouldn’t be able to post something yesterday because of a gazillion errands that had to be run and that I should’ve drafted something the day before but..
Oh well, what can I still do right?
And because of that, I’ll be posting two for today!
YAY! (full of sarcasm)
But hey, words are free flowing from my mind right now so why not take advantage right?
How I celebrated my birthday will be a bit detailed on my next post but for now, I’ll enumerate the things I want to give my 21 year old self next year .(as promised!)
I honestly haven’t filtered/revised the things I’ve listed but I’m still going to post them anyway.
P.S. PLEASE DON’T LAUGH.
Here it goes..
- a beach body – I’m serious!! I already miss my former self. The one who effortlessly doesn’t gain much and is always a swim-bikini ready person! Not the drool kind of ready but still..you get me right?
- a getaway withOUT relatives – I know, I know. Nothing beats family but I really really want to experience this! It’s like a big step into coming out of my comfort zone. It need not be for at least two days or something..almost a day can be considered!
- ATM with at least Php *0,000 – The ” * ” was really placed there. No typographical error. I can save a lot. The problem is that I can only save when I have something I need or want to save up for. I can’t just save for the sake of saving. It is something I should fix for myself and for my future also. I will start monitoring my finances well.
- new phone – Just because my phone is slowly giving up on me already. You know what they say..”slowly but surely”. I think that is what my phone is doing right now. HAHAHA!
- new sets of undergarments (okay I hope no guy reads this. lol. just kidding) – I want to feel a new
womanlady. I don’t know..I think even if those pieces of clothing are literally under your garments, it can give you that little push you need. Think self-confidence.
- “me” day at least every other month – because I want time to think and de-stress and just enjoy being me. Time to appreciate my life and the things and people around me. 🙂
- fixed sleep cycle – Yes, fixeD. Meaning I’ve already done it. I know some people might think that it is still early to think about ageing and all but I wouldn’t wanna risk my skin and appearance just to find out if an unfixed sleep cycle is really not a good idea.
- bikini picture – This has been long overdue. Actually, my best friend and I wanted to do this a few years back but for some reason, we weren’t able to do it. Last week, I had an opportunity to take one because I was at Boracay but I didn’t. Why? Because I don’t think I still can. I want it to be taken when I feel like I won’t be ashamed if someone (but me) will see it.
- belly piercing – This can be done anytime but then again, I would like to get it done when I actually have the guts to have others see it as well.
- friends I would want to be friends with till I grow old – Sounds cheesy eh? Unlike other people who treat their acquaintances (which they refer to as friends) as collections, I need not have plenty of friends. What I want are those friends who I know will be there with me no matter what happens. And of course, I will do the same for them.
That is what I have listed so far.
What do you think? 🙂
P.s I didn’t proof read. Sorry for the errors.
The author: Preston Waters is a thinker. He’s not your traditional philosophical persona, however, as he leaves no topic untouched. Covering all the bases, from business to women, Preston Waters is the ultimate man’s man for Gen-Y.
The 20 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make In Your 20s
Your 20’s compose undoubtedly the most pivotal time in your life. While there are plenty of temptations and distractions, the decisions you make here are truly what dictate your future, as the weak fail and only the strong survive.
Do you have what it takes to become a monumental success? Or will you live out a life of mediocrity? The choice is up to you. While many think they have all the answers and the keys to success, we have seen those people make the same pitfalls too many times before.
This is the time for you to hustle, scrap and fight for the life that you want for yourself. You manifest your own destiny during these crucial years.
Every move you make is a test. Don’t f*ck it up. These are the 20 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make In Your 20s.
20. Working for money, not for building your dreams
Never do anything just because it’s convenient for you. Look to challenge yourself and build your own dream instead of building someone else’s. Even if it doesn’t exactly make sense now, create something with great value so you can cash out big.
Always look to the future and never for immediate compensation. What are you going to do with those weekly wages anyways? Stop being so entitled and pretending like you deserve cash, prizes and vacations just yet. You will soon realize once you’ve made it that making money doesn’t make you happy. It’s the journey.
19. Thinking that this is the right time to fall in love
While all of your friends might be doing it, don’t fall into the trap of a relationship. Sure it seems like the right thing to do, but your 20s are entirely too crucial for your personal growth for you to be focusing on fulfilling the wishes of another individual.
Not only does it make you complacent with where you are in life, but it makes you boring. When your business is at stake and your future is resting on your shoulders, the last thing you need is to be bogged down by an insecure lover rushing you home.
Get out there, meet new people, test the limits and have fun. It will take you to the places you’ve only dreamed of going.
18. Trying to act like the man rather than learning how to become one
Instead of going overboard on the Gucci monogram and bottles in the club, as if you just signed to Rocnation, spend that time focusing on your career.
Every second counts and if more time is spent pretending to be the person you want to be instead of becoming that man, then you’ll sink in quick sand without even knowing it.
A real man is willing to make sacrifices. If you aren’t down to put in the work, then please don’t act like you are. You can enjoy the success when you actually attain it.
17. Making friends instead of earning trust
The in-crowd may be tempting, but you’ll probably fall victim to surrounding yourself with social climbers. We know you feel entitled to celebrate, but please relax. It’s never attractive when you act as though this is the last time you’ll ever see this in life.
Make connections with people based on trial and error, not presuppositions and drunk ranting about what they can do for your business.
If you ever want people to take you seriously, then you have to take them seriously. Just because you think you trust someone doesn’t always mean you can. Heed any red flags in the past before jumping into any kind of venture with them.
16. Not caring because you only live once — that’s for fools
We all are guilty of irrational decision-making in our 20s. Fast people and fast times with money in your pocket always lead to over-extending yourself.
A life of partying, heavy drugs and pretty much having that YOLO attitude will leave you flat on your ass. Get focused and lock into what you’re supposed to be doing. If you don’t know what that is, then you better figure it out ASAP.
15. Making all your wants, needs
Expensive women and cheap thrills coupled with the expensive sneakers should not be on the list of your needs. Setting the foundation for your business and team is far more important than updating your wardrobe and chasing sex.
Distinguish between what you want and what you actually need. Make sure your priorities are in tact or you will lose your track.
14. Forgetting that family comes first
Those who supported you before anything deserve to be taken care of when you reach your success. If you aren’t doing this for the ones you love, then you’re not doing it right. Family comes first, no matter what happens. If you work for whom you love instead of just yourself, you will get far.
13. Blaming anyone else but yourself for anything in life
Hold yourself accountable for everything. At the end of the day, all you have in the world is yourself — so go hard. Don’t look to anyone for answers and instead of making problems, create solutions.
Whether it was that job you wanted, the funding you needed or the love you think you can’t live without, there is no one that can be held accountable in this universe except for you.
12. Getting comfortable like you actually deserve down time
Unless you’re chilling with Victoria’s Secret models in Monaco this weekend, you shouldn’t even be thinking about taking a break anytime soon. You need a vacation?
What have you accomplished? Mark Cuban spent seven years building out his first business before he even took a break. Don’t get lazy now.
11. Sticking with jobs that didn’t teach you anything
A bad job is like an unhealthy relationship. Truthfully, the only reason you’re there is because it is the safest and easiest thing you know.
Any job or relationship that allows for you to get comfortable should be avoided at all costs. The last scenario you could ever want is becoming like the rest of those miserable 40-somethings faced with weekends of minivans and soccer practice.
10. Following the crowd instead of forging against it
You can be aware of the trends, but never follow them. If all your time is spent trying to adjust to your surroundings, you’ll get lost in the crowd all the more easily.
Success and greatness are constructed by trendsetters themselves, not those who latched on to what’s currently trending. We hope that you don’t have any aspirations to look like your favorite rapper. Temptation to be influenced by those who you aspire to be like is easy, but no one finds his or her calling while following in the footsteps of another.
9. Failing to energize those around you
Although you may sometimes think there is a lack of talent in your networks — this is never the case. It is your sole responsibility to inspire, encourage and drive those around you to succeed.
Failing to do so only confirms that you fall victim to that which you accuse others of. Change and greatness can be sparked everywhere, but bring it upon yourself to trigger it.
8. Thinking you need to stop learning and growing
You have more zeros at the end of your bank statement and stamps in your passport than you had ever imagined. Don’t consider this your victory lap, but rather as a taste of greatness. Do you live to enjoy the moments you dreamed of or a lifetime of unimaginable success?
The common misconception that once things are in your favor, you no longer have to put in the 3:00AM work hours is a dangerous problem. The fewer nights that you’re willing to put in the work, the fewer opportunities you will have to celebrate your achievements in the future.
7. Thinking that anyone will ever pay you back
Your 20s will be accompanied with a slew of poor investments by both you and those around you. Whether rich or poor, there will always be someone in your circle that will need a helping hand. If you ever think you’re going to see that money again, you’re sorely mistaken.
If there were a plan of action and re-investment, then the truth is that you will not see $1 back. Times are tough, especially in your 20s and finding a route back to financial freedom is often seen only when winning the lotto or signing your first deal with Ca$h Money Records.
Of course miracles do happen, but the probabilities that you’ve essentially given the money away are far too high.
6. Investing in relationships with the wrong values
Your love life is an investment — and the smarter the deals you execute, the savvier of an investor you become. Instead of navigating through an ambiguous investment in which you shower your lover with cash and prizes for existing, make sure he or she will demonstrate positive returns. Your love life should have a solid ROI.
5. Holding on to friends that waste your time and add no value to your life
You’ll be sucked down into the abyss right with them if you don’t cut the fat of the group. Family and friends could have been great to you as a child, but if they no longer hold the value and inspiration that is needed for you to thrive in life, then cut them loose.
The only individuals you should be surrounding yourself with are those that challenge your ideas and motivate you to find the next solution to your problems. No, not the pessimistic assh*les who shoot down your ideas with their negativity, but rather the ones who genuinely want to see you succeed no matter what you do in life.
4. Forgetting about the piggy bank and spending every dollar you have
If our check is for $9, then we’re most likely spending $30. Between credit cards, school loans and every other avenue for attaining a quick dollar, our need for immediate gratification is worse than ever.
The truth is it’s about making more money, not saving it. But at the same time, if you have no means for expanding your revenue channels, then you must be able to save a few dollars here and there. No one likes to have to walk to work because he blew every dollar at LAVO.
3. Not wrapping it before tapping it
If you don’t want to have a child then you better limit your excuses. As vulgar as it may sound, sometimes there are only a few options in life, so you must avoid all potential margins of error.
The road to success is not paved with having responsibilities of children and your future wife to be. This is a somewhat lonely journey that you must take by yourself and those you love will be able to celebrate with you after.
2. Dating unstable people with mommy and daddy issues
We need to control the invincibility we all feel when it comes to both men and women. Whether she’s a stripper or he’s a frat bro, we feel the need to be the knight in shining armor for our lovers.
As chivalrous as this may seem, we hate to break it to you, but you will never be able to change anyone. By setting yourself up for a losing battle, you’ve only ensured your misery for the next few months. She’s clingy for a reason, don’t be her Dr. Phil. And if he doesn’t have ambition now, he never will.
1. Forgetting that karma is a huge b*tch
Whether it’s burning bridges with people you loved, stealing your friend’s girlfriend or plotting against an ex-partner, we must always remember that karma is the biggest b*tch we’ve ever met.
There is nothing more true than the fact that whatever goes around comes around, and you are not immune to the cosmic forces that be. We’re not asking you to go on your Mother Teresa pilgrimage, but don’t be surprised when reality catches back up with you and brings you to your knees. Be a good person. You’ll get further in life.
Something to consider 🙂
From the gazillion thoughts in my head about what I should start writing about..
I decided on writing about WANTS.
Everyone has a lot of wants in their lives.
No one is an exception.
From the star-crossed ones to the most wealthy people on the planet, no one is exempted.
That is just the way life works.
From their status to their hair style, there is always at least one thing a person wants to change or improve.
As for me, I have a lot of that.
From material things to my physical appearance, I always have something that I want to change.
I need not have the most recent and “cool” mobile phone but I really prefer a certain brand, Samsung.
Yes, my last purchase wasn’t Samsung *sigh* but I might have one around this month.
For my tablet, I am perfectly happy with my Samsung Galaxy Tablet 8.9 – P7300.
Saved up for it as a gift for myself on my 18th birthday which was a year and 6-7 months ago already.
I wish I can say that I have a camera and that I am very much contented with it but.. no.. I don’t have one.
As for how I look..
I think it is normal for most girls to feel insecure about their outward appearance one way or another but I believe life will be so much better if we learn to love ourselves for who we really are.
The first step? Declaration.
Admittedly, I am a very very insecure person.
Though it may not look like that most of the time because of my “I don’t care” facade, I really am.
I really am insecure about my weight.
From my childhood till I was in 2nd year high, I honestly have minimal problem related to weight gain.
I wasn’t the thinnest but my weight was just right.
But now.. I think I am nearing the end of my normal weight range.
For my binge eating, I know that I am to blame for the lack of self-control.
Second is my skin.
The sun exposure because of ACP (Aerospace Cadets of the Philippines), a mandatory program in my high school, caused the color of my skin to be uneven.
I really want to be fair like before!
Mosquitoes just love me for some reason.
Old folks say that because my blood is sweeter than usual, the smell is much more appetizing to insects.
Not that I have a lot of scars but when I wear shorts or skirts or dresses, if I’m not careful, I go home with mosquito bites.
My face.. is such a big insecurity for me.
I blame my acne on my genes.
Nuff said for that area.
Contrary to the ones I’ve stated, one thing I thank my genes for is my height.
I am not supermodel tall but compared to the average height of females here in the Philippines, being 5 foot and 6 inches is a blessing.
The second step? Acceptance.
I am trying to work on it by the help of books, God and by loving myself.
Work out not because you hate your body but because you love it.
Our wants in life reflect most of our insecurities and other short comings.
For one to fully love oneself and to be able to impart that kind of love to others requires accepting yourself as you and not as someone who you want yourself to be.
As for my journey towards loving myself as myself, I think I still have a long way to go but I think what is important is that I’ve already started.
How about you?
What are your insecurities?
That nothing can spring out from it any more.
That nothing can be done already.
But they are wrong.
I’m sure someone once asked you about a glass being half full or half empty.
(Half full – optimistic, half empty – pessimistic)
It is just like that.
Choose to look at the brighter side of things.
I know sometimes one can’t help by be sad and think about negative thoughts but that is just part of life.
Instead of thinking of it as an end – may it be a farewell because you are migrating, a school year that ended, being fired from work – think of it as an and.
How will you have a “new” life abroad that you will enjoy if you keep on living in the past?
How will you be able to meet and have new friends if the school year/term doesn’t end?
How will you be able to grow, learn from experience, possibly have your dream job and even your own business if you are too busy working there?
There is always a brighter side.
Look for it and you will be happy.
If you’ve read my previous blog posts, I mentioned that I took a basic Korean course – which I promised to blog about.
It was actually just a short one. 10 weeks, 3 hours each = 30 hours.
Though we only had a short time to learn and discuss, we actually finished the whole module – Sogang University’s Korean Module 1.
Two weeks before our exam schedule, our class and our teacher was planning a farewell dinner after the final exam.
Our teacher said that we can bring friends and that he will try bringing some of his korean friends too so we can meet them.
Last March 16, 2013 was our final examination which is composed of a written exam (50 questions) and an oral exam (self introduction & 3 random questions to be drawn).
Thankfully, we had a mini review before the test began so I found the written exam easy to moderate.
As each of us finishes the written test, our teacher will be calling us one by one for the oral exam.
When I was called, I instantly became shy..not because of my teacher but because two of his korean friends were there!
First, my 선생님/teacher introduced them to me then he looked at me and said “begin your introduction”.
He wasn’t looking to me AT ALL and the chair I was sitting on was faced to his friends so I said, “to them?”.
And he said yes.
I think I was pretty successful in introducing myself and saying 5 random facts about me but my heart was just racing so fast that my mind went blank after the first question.
Thankfully, the one who was asking the question, Victoria, was really very kind. They were actually helping me answer the question by helping me dissect the sentence!
For the second and third sentence, I think I answered better.
After my turn, I felt so relieved that my turn was done but also nervous at the same time cause I don’t know my grade yet.
After everyone was called, we planned our transportation.
How we will go there and who rides with whom.
We dined at Woorijib! A korean restaurant near the school.
Unfortunately, just minutes after we settled down, Victoria needed to go already because she needs to attend a band rehearsal (for their church I think.)
And so she left.
Almost everyone in our group had unlimited sampgyupsal for dinner!
For only PhP 399/₩10,700/$9.7, we had unlimited pork, lettuce, soup and a variety of 반찬/banchan/side dishes – which were all very delicious!
It was really worth it!
Because of the arrangement of seats, I was mostly having conversations with 선생님/seonsaengnim/teacher, my 언니/eonnie/sister, My 친구/chingu/friend, my classmate who was a teacher, my seatmate in class and Marco, my teacher’s 한국 친구/hanguk chingu/ korean friend which is also our friend now. ^o^
Though it is like a farewell dinner, it is not the end.
It is only the start of new friendships and more memories to be made.
I have no regrets in taking up this class and I am looking forward to seeing them again.
Here are some of the group pictures we have 🙂
That is it for now.
Always remember: “Not all that ends signifies an end. It can also signify an and.” -wanderrwithmee