This is a quote from my favorite book, Everyday.
“I am a drifter, and as lonely as that can be, it is also remarkably freeing. I will never define myself in terms of anyone else. I will never feel the pressure of peers or the burden of parental expectation. I can view everyone as pieces of a whole, and focus on the whole, not the pieces. I have learned to observe, far better than most people observe. I am not blinded by the past or motivated by the future. I focus on the present because that is where I am destined to live.” – David Levithan, Everyday
I recommend you to read it!
Such a selfless book ❤
I am a third year college student. Turning twenTEEN January of next year. And I am confused. An early mid-life crisis perhaps?
All children are asked what one wants to be when they grow up. We had numerous – and some really hard to reach – jobs that we want like being an astronaut. As for me, I can only recall answering two: to be a dentist and to be a model.
It is not an alien idea that what we answered back then may not be the case when asked 10-15 years later or maybe even 20.
What has changed?
The fact that we have been exposed to more things and occupations may be the reason. As one grows up, we begin to know ourselves better. We start discovering “who we really are” and what are we “meant to do or be”.
Realizing it as early as possible is great but realizing it before it’s too late is even better.
When realized early, one can hone his/her skills already. Passion builds up from there. It seems as if your life has a direction and you’ll never feel astray again.
But why is realizing it before it’s too late still better?
Because you still realized it even though it took time. The mere fact that you realized it makes it good. With everything that you went through to find out what you really want that will make you happy, that makes it better. There is this saying that goes something like,
Because you earned it the hard way, you value it more.
I realized it already. What now?
Now, it is up to you to make that happen.
Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not. —Deepak Chopra
Yes, it is easier being said than done because of course every one has this ideal occupation and ideal life inside our heads.
Even though this is the case, always go with your passion. Life may be harder (or easier) this way but you can never enjoy more without passion in what you do. You’ll always feel like you’re obliged to conform to things that you really don’t enjoy doing. That makes one feel as is life becoming harder and harder.
And as for asking if that dream is realistic, be honest to yourself. Ask if it is REALLY REALLY REALLY far-fetched. Like only 1 out of 1 billion people can achieve that, then maybe you should strategize well before attempting to reach that dream.
But if what you want isn’t far-fetched, get up and do something! Do something to get closer to it! Small things really count. Also, it will help to do some law of attraction. I personally believe that the strongest shield that humans have is their mind. One can never go wrong if you believe that you can achieve something.
Nothing is impossible. Never give up.
Now, you may ask, why am I confused?
Because I tend to mix up my passion with my dreams with my emotions.
I must admit that there is an inner rebel in me. I don’t want people dictating me or getting credit for something that was really decided or done by me.
For example, the course I’m going to take for college. Yes, a lot of people gave me suggestions and I did try to consider them but what stood out most was what if I took this course suggested by personA but I didn’t like it, I would want to blame any one – maybe not directly but in my head silently – for the time wasted because I followed his/her suggestion. Or perhaps a course suggested by personB that I loved and excelled in but he/she tells every one or even just me that he/she is the reason that I excelled. Yes, they can credit themselves and I’ll thank them but somehow, I think, I’ll really feel indebted towards that person forever. And I don’t want that either.
Right now, I feel as if that rebel in me took over me for 4 years – which is bad by the way.
Frankly speaking, I am taking the next term off in school to learn everything in my dad’s business. I want to give it a shot not because my dad has been constantly advising me since high school to take a course related to it and have a license for it someday but because I am doing this for myself.
I am doing this to test myself if I actually enjoy doing it and if I’ll miss what my course asks me to do or even if something in me will be triggered if I do – may it be a new passion or a new dream job. I want to expand my horizon and my knowledge about life outside of school.
This new journey of mine is effective next term which is around the first week of January till March then summer break till May (around 5 months).
I shall write my weekly – or even daily (I hope) – musings here in my blog to keep a record of my supposed progress and at the same time help others like me who are confused out there.
Before I forget to mention them.. Here are my (as of the moment)
Dreams – to be a travel blogger, to have a show related to travel/eating out/cultures, to travel, travel and travel
Interests – travel, cultures, gadgets, blogging, different cuisines, interior designing, architecture, etc
and yes, I am more of an art inclined person. But you know what is so ironic? I think I am a frustrated artist. HAHA! I do floor plans pretty well though ( I think) because I am a bit OC.
How about you? What are your passions and dreams?
Have a nice day!
People hear the word SACRIFICE, and they become afraid that something will be taken away from them or that they will have to give up something they couldn’t live without. Sacrifice, to them, means loss in a world telling us we could have it all. But I believe TRUE SACRIFICE IS A VICTORY. That’s because it requires free will to give up something for someone you love, or something or someone you love more than yourself. I won’t lie to you. It’s a gamble. Sacrifice wont take away pain and loss, but it wins the battle against bitterness, the bitterness that dims the light on all of the true value in our lives.
From the gazillion thoughts in my head about what I should start writing about..
I decided on writing about WANTS.
Everyone has a lot of wants in their lives.
No one is an exception.
From the star-crossed ones to the most wealthy people on the planet, no one is exempted.
That is just the way life works.
From their status to their hair style, there is always at least one thing a person wants to change or improve.
As for me, I have a lot of that.
From material things to my physical appearance, I always have something that I want to change.
I need not have the most recent and “cool” mobile phone but I really prefer a certain brand, Samsung.
Yes, my last purchase wasn’t Samsung *sigh* but I might have one around this month.
For my tablet, I am perfectly happy with my Samsung Galaxy Tablet 8.9 – P7300.
Saved up for it as a gift for myself on my 18th birthday which was a year and 6-7 months ago already.
I wish I can say that I have a camera and that I am very much contented with it but.. no.. I don’t have one.
As for how I look..
I think it is normal for most girls to feel insecure about their outward appearance one way or another but I believe life will be so much better if we learn to love ourselves for who we really are.
The first step? Declaration.
Admittedly, I am a very very insecure person.
Though it may not look like that most of the time because of my “I don’t care” facade, I really am.
I really am insecure about my weight.
From my childhood till I was in 2nd year high, I honestly have minimal problem related to weight gain.
I wasn’t the thinnest but my weight was just right.
But now.. I think I am nearing the end of my normal weight range.
For my binge eating, I know that I am to blame for the lack of self-control.
Second is my skin.
The sun exposure because of ACP (Aerospace Cadets of the Philippines), a mandatory program in my high school, caused the color of my skin to be uneven.
I really want to be fair like before!
Mosquitoes just love me for some reason.
Old folks say that because my blood is sweeter than usual, the smell is much more appetizing to insects.
Not that I have a lot of scars but when I wear shorts or skirts or dresses, if I’m not careful, I go home with mosquito bites.
My face.. is such a big insecurity for me.
I blame my acne on my genes.
Nuff said for that area.
Contrary to the ones I’ve stated, one thing I thank my genes for is my height.
I am not supermodel tall but compared to the average height of females here in the Philippines, being 5 foot and 6 inches is a blessing.
The second step? Acceptance.
I am trying to work on it by the help of books, God and by loving myself.
Work out not because you hate your body but because you love it.
Our wants in life reflect most of our insecurities and other short comings.
For one to fully love oneself and to be able to impart that kind of love to others requires accepting yourself as you and not as someone who you want yourself to be.
As for my journey towards loving myself as myself, I think I still have a long way to go but I think what is important is that I’ve already started.
How about you?
What are your insecurities?
This post is inspired (again) by one of my favourite writers, Jeff Goins.
His article made me think of what I want to do.
We all have aspirations and admit it or not, not everything happens as how we planned it.
And so, no matter how far-fetched it may seem, this is what I want to do..
I’d want to have a television show where I travel all over the world, see unusual places and recommend places & things to do when people travel. ✈
How about you?
What would you do?
I honestly no know nothing about Brian Lee.
It just so happened that I was on StumbleUpon and I saw this article.
At that time, I was not really down or anything but rather bored – I guess.
It has been awhile since I last read this and now that I am reading it again, it is still as effective.
It motivates you to do those little changes and makes you understand how the world works.
It helped me see the world in another light – a brighter light.
I cannot guarantee that it will have the same effect to you as it did to me but rest assured, it will make a difference.
So here is the original article.
(Note: the text inside the parentheses – ( text ) – are written by me. It contains my personal opinions.)
10 Sentences that Can Change Your Life
By: Brian Lee
The power of a sentence is tremendous. A single destructive sentence can ruin somebody’s life, make your day, or change your mood. Fortunately, there are some sentences that can give us power to go on. We have sorted out 10 powerful sentences that can change your life for the better.
#1 “People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.”
(This, I believe, is so true.
Every person (I think) has asked himself or herself this: “Why does it seem like everyone or everything is against me” – or something similar to that.
What we fail to realize is that maybe they or the world isn’t really against us.
It is just that the right time hasn’t come for what you want to happen.
Also, when we ask help from someone, we shouldn’t expect them to help us always.
They have their own reasons and not everyone explains their side which makes us misunderstand them.
To be able to communicate effectively always is not possible.
This makes a room for misunderstandings and I think this is one thing all human beings must understand and continue to work on.)
#2 “Climb mountains not so the world can see you, but so you can see the world.”
(The world is such a big place and there is so much to learn from it.
One should strive not for fame or for material gain but for knowledge and experience.
Personally, as a self-proclaimed wanderer in my own way, this made so much sense.
I’m not sure on what was the original context behind the quote but I got to relate to this is by relating it to travel.
To climb mountains is to travel ; so you can see the world is to knowledge and experience.
Travel not for the sake of travelling but travel to experience other cultures and new things and from there, you’ll learn about life and the world as a whole.
*This is personally my favourite quote ✈ ♥ )
#3 “You learn more from failure than from success; don’t let it stop you. Failure builds character.”
#4 “The most dangerous risk of all – The risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later”
(I’ve written a post before about hesitation.)
#5 “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.”
#6 “The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so you better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.”
#7 “If you accept your limitations you go beyond them.”
#8 “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing.. that’s why we recommend it daily.”
(Personally, when I feel down at times or when I just feel like it, I go into a “Law of Attraction mode”.
I do this to keep myself motivated and to continuously learn.
I admit that I am online most of the time because I am fond of researching about places and random things that interest me.
As a kind of person who easily gets bored of things (according to my friend—but it is kinda true), I really need constant update so as not to get bored.
When I get bored, I can be the laziest person alive.
So for me, this is really helpful.
When things get rough and you feel like there is no hope left, try going into the “Law of Attraction mode” by researching about what you currently want to attract into your life.
Doing it everyday is much better.)
#9 “Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something”
(I think this has a connection with the first quote.
Every one is alike in some way.
So don’t feel down and lonely.)
#10 “Comfort is the enemy of achievement.”
(Once you are in your comfort zone, you are restricted.
Restricted in many ways.
So many ways that you miss the chance of improving yourself.
Again, the post I’ve written about hesitation is related to this.)
“This is a great pity and does disservice to both the traveler and the destination, since even tourist towns are more than postcards. They are places where real people live and work. To fail to recognize them as such is not only disrespectful, but also deprive us of one of the most fulfilling experiences of travelling: connecting with people whom we would never have known had we stayed at home.” -Jamina Vesta Jugo
Even though I haven’t travelled much, I know in my heart that I love travelling.
Just the idea of it makes me jump for joy and it makes my heart skip a beat.
Yes, I am in love with travelling, adventures and everything in between.
Why I love it?
I am not really sure but I just know it.
I have read this article last year and just now, I came across it again.
It inspired me before and now that I’ve read it again, it made me proud of myself.
Yesterday, I booked an unplanned flight to an international destination.
Yes, I only have enough money for airfare as of now and I am still a student but I will of course save up for my travel and not just ask for allowance from my parents.
A lot of people save first and then book a flight after.
I am not sure what has gotten into me yesterday that I just wanted to book it right there and then without even checking out other airlines!
Luckily, what I got was a promo flight.
Anyway, I hope you read this article by Jeff Goins – an amazing writer – and I hope that you’ll be inspired by his piece of art just like me.
And so here it is… 🙂
3 Reasons to Travel While You’re Young by Jeff Goins
Never were more fatal words spoken:
- Yeah, but… what about debt?
- Yeah, but… what about my job?
- Yeah, but… what about my boyfriend (or dog or car or whatever)?
“Yeah, but…” is pernicious. Because it makes it sound like we have the best of intentions when really we are just too scared to do what we should. It allows us to be cowards, while sounding noble.
Most people I know who waited to travel the world never did. Conversely, plenty of people who waited for grad school or a steady job and traveled still did those things — eventually. Be careful of the yeah-but. The yeah-but will kill your dreams.
I was so stirred by this conversation that I shared it with a group of 30 young adults last night, many who were asking these very same questions.
The life you’ve always wanted
When you get older, life seems to just sort of happen to you. Your youth is a time of total empowerment. You get to do what you want.
But as you mature and gain new responsibilities, you have to be very intentional about making sure you don’t lose sight of what’s important.
So if you still have a reasonable amount of control over your circumstances, you should do what really matters. Because life won’t always be just about you.
During early adulthood, your worldview is still being formed. It’s important to steward this time — to give yourself opportunities to grow. A good way to do that is to travel.
So, young person, travel. Travel wide and far. Travel boldly. Travel with full abandon.
You will regret few risks you take when it comes to this. I promise you that. There are three reasons to travel while you’re young:
1. Traveling teaches you to live an adventure
When you look back on your life, you will have moments of which you are proud and maybe a few you regret. It’s likely that the following won’t be on the latter list:
- Bicycled across the Golden Gate Bridge.
- Appeared on Italian TV.
- Hiked a Mayan ruin.
- Learned Spanish in three months.
- Toured Europe by train.
They’re not on mine (fun fact: I’ve done all of the above). So what, then, will be? What choices will you regret making? Holding back. Being afraid. Making excuses. Not taking more risks. Waiting.
While you’re young, you should travel. You should take the time to see the world and taste the fullness of life. It’s worth whatever investment or money or sacrifice of time that may be required on your part.
This is not about being a tourist. It’s about experiencing true risk and adventure so you don’t have to live in fear for the rest of your life.
2. Traveling helps you encounter compassion
In your youth, you will make choices that will define you. The disciplines you begin now will be with you for the rest of your life.
Traveling will change you like little else can. It will put you in places that will force you to care for issues that are bigger than you.
If you go to southeast Asia, you may encounter the slave trade. If eastern Europe, you may see the effects of genocide and religious persecution. If Haiti, you’ll witness the the ugly side Western paternalism.
Your heart will break.
You will begin to understand that the world is both a big and small place. You will have a new-found respect for the pain and suffering that over half of the world takes for granted on a daily basis.
And you will feel more connected to your fellow human beings in a deep and lasting way. You will learn to care.
3. Traveling allows you to get some culture
While you’re still young, you should get cultured. Get to know the world and the magnificent people that fill it. There’s nothing quite like walking alongside the Colosseum or seeing Michelangelo’s David in person.
I can describe the city of San Juan and its amazing beaches and historic sites to you, but you really have to see it for yourself to experience it. You can read all the books in the world about the Great Wall of China or The Louvre, but being there is a different story.
The world is a stunning place, full of outstanding works of art. See it. Do this while you’re still young. Do not squander the time. You will never have it again.
You have a crucial opportunity to invest in the next season of your life now. Whatever you sow, you will eventually reap. Please. For your sake, do this. Because you won’t always be young. And life won’t always be just about you.
So travel. Experience the world for all it’s worth. Become a person of culture, adventure, and compassion.
“What if I’m not young?”
Travel, anyway. It may not be easy to do, but find a way to get out of your comfort zone. It’s really never too late.
But if you haven’t gotten sucked into the routine of life yet, I implore you — travel. It will never be easier than it is right now for you to do that which really matters.
So what are you waiting for?
Explore and travel the world!
Live like there is no tomorrow.
As Saint Augustine once said..
”The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.”